Free Trial Mini-Class Organizing Your Friends and Family

Planning for Help

As you’ve probably already figured out, you are going to need significant help once the babies arrive, and even before hand.

Take a moment to download and complete this chart:  In the first left-hand column under each heading, list the jobs that will need doing before and after babies’ arrival.

Often, friends and family are excited about the impending arrival of twins, triplets or more.  You will want to harness and manage this energy, using it to your advantage, rather than letting it overwhelm you and get out of control!  Some tips for doing so are covered in Section Four of our full course, but let’s consider some ways friends and family can assist you now, before the arrival of your babies…

 

Babies Shower

Whereas traditionally, some cultures prefer not to shower the parents-to-be, or to do so only after baby’s arrival, preparing for multiples may require some “new” traditions to be arranged, for everyone’s sanity.

Twins' dad dealing with shower aftermathTo begin with, multiples bring with them many more needs than singletons, and the space their “stuff” takes up will make it critical for you to plan and communicate what you need (and what you don’t!) to well-meaning gifters well in advance.  The lessons in Section Two of our full course go into considerable detail on needed items for newborn twins, triplets and more, but suffice it to say that the planning and arranging around this will take some time on your part.

Another consideration is that unlike a singleton birth, where mom-to-be can be quite active up to the birth date, most multiples pregnancies result in some form of modified rest.  In some cases, the babies may arrive up to 6 or 8 weeks early!  At the very least, Mom-to-be will tire fairly easily by 6-7 months, so waiting until the end of the third trimester to host a baby shower is not ideal.

It can be helpful to appoint a bossy friend to make baby registry and shower arrangements, and communicate with friends and family.  This person’s role will also involve significant education, in order to help others understand that you are not greedy, just needy!

Errands and Home Set-Up

Getting your home ready for the arrival of two or more little ones may require significant physical changes.  For example, we had to convert an office/spare bedroom into a nursery.  Luckily, a friend and her mother helped out with the transformation so that I wouldn’t have to inhale paint fumes in my “altered” state.  This same friend also helped get the two cribs set up so that we wouldn’t need to be fiddling with that once the babies arrived.

Some cultures believe that it is inappropriate to set up for babies before they come home safely, but with twins or more, your time will be so fully consumed with feeding, diapering, etc., that there really is very little time for set up once the babies come home.

We had a serious heart-to-heart with our friend about what if one of the babies doesn’t survive, and she assured us that she and her mother would come and take care of that so we wouldn’t need to complete such a painful task, in the unlikely event that something happened to one or both babies.  (As it turns out, Alex and Simon were born big and healthy at 37.5 week’s gestation!)

Feeding – Freezer, etc.

How will you manage cooking and eating once you have two or more babies to juggle?  Will your parents or in-laws be coming to help out for a few months?  Or have you hired help?  (Babies in Belly full course clients recieve a discount to several meal delivery and prep services — more info will be shared in Section One of our course, should you choose to enroll.)

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It can be quite useful to arrange, through your faith community or circle of friends, to have several weeks of meals prepared and frozen for easy consumption once babies arrive and time for meal prep is at a premium.  When Alex and Simon came home, someone in the community arranged for our church family to bring a hot meal every night for nearly two months!  What a gift.

These are just a few of the ways in which your friends and family can help you prepare for the arrival of your little ones.

Take a moment now to revisit the chart you began to fill out above.

In the second column under each heading, jot down the name of a friend or family member who might be willing to help with the job in question.  This will quickly allow you to see where the gaps are, so that you can search for volunteers, or – if need be – hire some help.

It is said that “it takes a village to raise a child”.  How many hearts will it take, then, to love and help raise two, three or more children?

Thank you for trying out our free mini-course!

To give you a sense of the big picture, these three lessons would be like one of the shorter Classes/Sections in our full course.  (Our full course also includes several interactive games, as well as geographically-relevant links to multiple births support and discount sites.)

I hope this information has been helpful to you, and I invite you to register online for our full prenatal course, which consists of 5 Classes/Sections each divided into short, manageable lessons just like these, covering topics such as:Babies in the Grass

•    Pregnancy nutrition and pre-term labour prevention
•    Feeding multiples: Breast, bottle or both?
•    The best double (or triple or quad) stroller out there
•    Managing the first weeks/months at home with multiple babies

… and much, much more!

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